By Chuck Griffin
Holston WCA Chair
Something happened at General Conference 2019 that we have not fully contemplated. In passing the Traditional Plan, we opened ourselves to renewed ministry with gays, lesbians and other people struggling with sexual and gender identity issues.
Now wait a minute, some of you may be thinking, the LGBTQ+ community says we insulted and ignored them. But therein lies a basic problem: We’ve allowed a portion of that community to act as if they speak for all. In the process, a significant number of gay, lesbian and bisexual Christians have been made to feel invisible, even though they seek a relationship with us and clearly can work alongside us in the ongoing mission of the historic, orthodox church.
I did not go searching for this softer-spoken LGBTQ+ crowd. They came searching for us, reaching out to Wesleyan Covenant Association leaders through a group called Revoice after GC2019 was over.
“We are in solid agreement with your statement on Marriage and Sexuality, listed on the WCA website,” an extended e-mail from their organization said.
These Christians describe their sexual and gender orientations as “non-straight,” but they also believe the Bible is clear about sexual sin. They are like any other Christians who are willing to say, “I am prone to sin, but with God’s help, I’m striving for holiness.”
As followers of Jesus Christ, they hope to live obediently by receiving loving support from an understanding church community. We Methodists would say they seek to go on to perfection, along with all the rest of us sinners saved by grace. Had the UMC rejected the Traditional Plan, we would have been just another mainstream church telling them, “It’s okay—go ahead and live into that sin troubling you so deeply.”
These are not people who advocate radical conversion therapies or who think they simply need to pray harder for healing, as much as they might welcome healing. Like any thoughtful Christian who respects God’s revelation in Scripture, they understand the depth of their brokenness. They treat their orientations as a part of their lives to be managed through discipleship, and in the process they say they serve God in better ways.
Many of them, perhaps the vast majority, choose to pursue celibacy, a lifestyle long honored by the Bible and the historic church. They do this even though celibacy is considered odd in our culture, which heavily emphasizes sexual fulfillment as the sure path to true happiness. Some Revoice Christians manage to have fulfilling traditional marriages and families, with the help and understanding of a loving opposite-sex partner.
What We Gain Together
I have to admit, much of this was new to me. I have heard the talking points from the highly vocal “it’s not a sin” crowd, and I also am aware of the extreme solutions promoted by far-right or fundamentalist Christians. The approach of the Revoice Christians to their non-straight orientations is very different, rooted in deep exploration of Scripture and gentle reliance on the grace of God. They also express a poignant desire for substantial, deep friendships with like-minded Christians, something they often are denied in conservative churches when their orientations are known.
As orthodox Methodists, we need to offer our hand of fellowship to them in this confusing time. And with our Wesleyan legacy, we also should be quick to recognize a body of believers deliberately seeking what we would call sanctifying encounters with the Holy Spirit.
We also have much to learn from them. As traditional Christians, we continue to be very open to the “other oriented,” but many of us find ourselves puzzled about how to move forward in the current climate.
One excellent resource is “All but Invisible: Exploring Identity Questions at the Intersection of Faith,” a book by Revoice founder Dr. Nate Collins, a Ph.D. theologian with ties to Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. Collins recognizes his own “non-straight” orientation, but with the help of God and his understanding wife, Sara, he says he has successfully learned to live in a biblically sound marriage.
I hope to bring an in-depth review of this sometimes-complicated book in the near future. I say “sometimes complicated” in as positive a way as possible. I ran into several sections of the book where I needed to stop and meditate on a new idea. I’m still working through much of what he proposes, and any internet search will quickly demonstrate Collins is controversial, even within his own seminary. Many of these controversies center on the use of language, a challenge for any people leading the way among so many cultural and theological land mines.
Back to St. Louis?
Revoice can do much to help us shape our thinking about orthodox outreach ministries, and I agree with Collins’ goal that in the area of human sexuality, we should “focus our efforts on helping the church to be a place where gay and lesbian men and women can discover the abundant life that the gospel promises them.”
One particular learning opportunity is the Revoice19 conference June 5-8, in, of all places, St. Louis. Yes, it’s the week before our own Holston Annual Conference, but I’m feeling a call in that direction. If, after further exploration, some of you are feeling the same call, let me know.
Many of our delegates say they returned from the St. Louis General Conference feeling beaten down and discouraged by the animosity there. Wouldn’t it be remarkable if some of us could return from the same city a few months later with a renewed understanding of how to engage the LGBTQ+ community in a positive way?
Regardless of what happens in the deeply divided UMC in the next year or so, orthodox Methodists have to rediscover how we are called to be in ministry with those who differ from the mainstream in sexual orientation. Revoice’s invitation to a relationship may be just what we need.
I think this is a step in the right direction! This could certainly reduce some of the tension we all feel and give us a solid, Biblical point of reference to love and disciple those who struggle with their sexuality. We could begin to heal the division within the church. I am interested in helping this process in any way I can. My strength and calling is in teaching and discipleship.
We should follow the plan passed. And also a church should try to be as biblical as possible in their teachings
I appreciate this post. I am a WCA member. Although I experience SSA (same-sex attraction), I do not see that as essential to my identity. I recognize SSA as temptation. It is so much harder to resist any temptation when we face it alone. When the lion is choosing it’s prey to devour, it goes for the compromised animal who is separated from the herd. Let’s come together and make a place of safety for those who have been struggling in isolation.
I would like to add that, although I long to see the church minister well with people who experience SSA, I see some of the premises of ReVoice as misguided. For example, I believe it is harmful to reinforce the philosophy of sexual attraction as a label or identity. Here is a quote from a young man who articulates this: “I knew my sexuality described so much of me, but I discovered it didn’t define me.” I think Living Out does a better job of clearly delineating between attractions and identity.
I have heard this complaint about Revoice before, but try looking at it this way: They, as we all should be, are in a state of repentance, and repentance begins with an understanding of our sins, in particular any ongoing temptations we may experience. A good starting point for alcoholics is Alcoholics Anonymous; the sin is clearly labeled and dealt with so the person can grow. People struggling with anger need a clearly defined anger management program. It is difficult to overcome a sin that has not been clearly defined.
I would add that the group you mention, Living Out, has chosen for its name a very clear label, a play on words that clearly evokes gay identity. Otherwise, how can they initially communicate to the people they are trying to reach?
As for the line between attractions and identity, I found this interesting. In his book, Nate Collins notes how Jesus blurs that very line in the Sermon on the Mount. Men begin committing adultery not at the point where they have sex with women outside of marriage, but when they look at another woman with lust. Murder begins not as the act of killing, but when there is anger in the heart.
These are good conversations to have. Let’s keep having them as we try to better understand the needs of our brothers and sisters struggling with same-sex attraction.